RESILIENCE ~ REMEMBER ~ REJOICE
You are here because you have resilience. You proved it by recognizing the unhealthy situation you found yourself in and took your grand exit. What you may feel missing is that connection to your authentic self, the parts of you that make you ~ YOU.
It’s understandable to feel disconnected and stuck, unable to freely move forward after such a conflictual relationship. I know. I have over five decades of experience in narcissistic, antagonistic, and toxic relationships. Yep, all the “Icks!”
I’m resilient too. My resilience led me to bravely embrace the fact that we are not the same after facing great adversity in these relatiionships. And I was able to Radically Accept the truth about my relationship histories.
These experiences changed us. We’re still moving forward, but there can remain a negative self-narrative that creeps in as we move through recovering from narcissistic abuse.
Through my study, research and experiential learning I found the tools that helped me to silence that negative self-narrative and Restyle my relationship with myself ~ and others ~ while being my most authentic self.
I Remember my experiences, but I’m not defined by them. I Rejoice in the lessons they taught me, they no longer burden or sadden me. And I confidently lean into my Resilience, and that is the genesis of my journey to here!
I would be honored to be your guide in discovering how Bravery And Radical Acceptance can lead you to your most authentic self and to the best relationships of your life. Including with yourself.
“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” – Confucius
Mission Statement
Empowering Resilient People to Restyle Their Approach To Relationships, reconnect with their most authentic self , discover their hidden communication skills and move into thriving, secure relationships. Everywhere.
“It’s not survival of the fittest, it’s survival of the most adaptable.” – Unknown
About Me
With over 5 decades of personal relationship experiences with individuals who have narcissistic personality styles, I have developed a strong and clear understanding of their nuances, behaviors and communication styles.
I have over 10 years of active study and comparative research, during which I deepened my understanding of this maladaptive personality type and cultivated science-based insights.
My experiential learning and specialty studies gave me a first-hand look at the impact of narcissistic behaviors on relationships which leave survivors with upended lives ~ questioning our own experiences, realities and truth. I truly understand this devastation because I didn’t just study it, I lived it.
Narcissistic personality traits such as entitlement, lack of empathy, manipulation, exploitation, gas lighting, coercive control and lack of accountability destroy relationships and wound souls. Survivors can become stuck, questioning themselves on every aspect of the relationship and even viewing their time with an individual who has a Narcissistic Personality Style with Euphoric Recall. That is when we choose to remember only the, albeit rare, “good” times and ignore the vast amount of difficult ones.
Being introduced to Dr. Thais Gibson’s work, led me to become an Accredited and Certified Integrated Attachment Theory (IAT) Practitioner. This science-proven work we will do together, goes far beyond surface level change. You will create significant and lasting improvement in your relationships, communication and enjoy better connections with everyone in your life.
After years of relationships with individuals who have narcissistic personality styles, I also found I was losing important communication skills. New York Times Best-selling Author and Behavioral Researcher Vanessa Van Edwards, and The People School she founded, helped reconnect me with long lost communication techniques and People Skills. I learned not to make myself small to please others, and Vanessa helped guide me back to what I thought was lost forever~my ability to authentically connect with others. I would love to share some of the best communication~both verbal and non-verbal~straegies for ensuring you convey the right message to others. And, you will have a clearer understanding of what others are communicating to you.
Throughout all the lessons I’ve learned and experienced, my driving passion remained my journey and knowledge must be shared to benefit others who have faced adversity in their relationships. That’s why I’m here. For you. I know I can help you effectively Restyle the way you view relationships, apply discernment with conflictual personalities and improve how you communicate with everyone.
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” – Maya Angelou
The No Holds Bara’d Mascot
Boujee The Camo Kitty
Boujee is a (tailless) Manx with a tortoise shell coat and the tortitude to match!
Title: C.E.O. ~ Cat Executive Officer
Primary Role ~ Snoopervising
Likes
~ long grass to hide in
~ a full dish – at ALL times
~ a running faucet for sips-on-the-go
Favorite toy: A small, stuffed Godzilla
With Gratitude
It is with immense gratitude I acknowledge the many brilliant clinicians and educators in the field of narcissism today. Among them, Dr. Les Carter of Surviving Narcissism and his great body of work are most inspiring to me. I am proud to say that this generous and kind professional helped shape my comprehension on this important subject. I am also a very proud member of Dr. Carter’s “Team Healthy” which, along with Dr. Carter’s decades of experience and calm, confident delivery, provides a valuable source of knowledge, support and encouragement to Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse worldwide.
Dr. Carter bravely shines a light on the impact of individuals who have a narcissistic perosnality style, and those who by word, deed or silence, enable them. It was through Dr Carter that I was introduced to the fascinating work of Dr. Thais Gibson, and her Personal Development School. As a result, I became an Accredited and Certified Integrated Attachment Theory (IAT) Practitioner.
To my exceptional husband, Kirk, Always know you are my “Why!”
We must take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.
Sometimes we must interfere.” ~ Elie Wiesel
Better Connections Begin With B.A.R.A.
You are E.A.C.H. ~ Empathy And Connection Heroes ~ and trailblazers in this new community. We will gather here, share our stories, insights and our support for each other.
If you are struggling, feel stuck or are still dealing with residual pain from your relationship with an antagonistic, toxic or narcissistic family member, friend or partner ~ you will find connection here. Your burden will be lightened because many, no longer the one, will carry it together.
If you are ready to begin Restyling your relationships and life, reach out to me. Let’s connect on a call to discuss the full possibilities of understanding who you are, how you connect and communicate with others and what you desire for your future.
I can help you unlock hidden communication skills and help you decipher what others communicate to you. You will discover how to create great relationships, and connect with people in a more meaningful and much deeper way.
It would be my honor to help you on your journey to the life and relationships you deserve! I can’t wait to meet you!
“Iron Sharpens Iron” ~ Proverbs 27:17
A.C.T. Now!
